Baby M & I spent 2 days in hospital following his birth and I couldn't wait to get home to Mr M. Our first night home was awful, baby M wouldn't settle. We tried feeding him, winding him and nothing seemed to work. At 4am we phoned the ward who were brilliant and gave us lots of reassurance, they said that it sounded like baby had very bad wind. They gave us some tips and said they would phone us back in 2 hours, which they did. It was so reassuring to know they were only a call away. They also stated they would ask the midwife to come see us for our visit first thing.
Our visits from the community midwives haven't been very positive experiences to be honest, there has been conflicting advice, one was just plain rude and another made me feel awful as she arrived as baby was crying. After 2 seconds in the house she was making judgements about us and made us feel rubbish.
On a positive note we were discharged from the midwives to our lovely health visitor as baby has gained weight and is doing well.
One thing I am getting fed up of people asking is "are you in a routine"!!! Really?!? How is a week old baby supposed to have a routine???! Also people are obsessed by how much sleep we are getting. Some nights are good & he's up every 3-4 hrs for a feed but other nights he won't settle until 4am. Although we are both shattered I'm not worried, how does a new baby know the difference between day & night?!? We are just going with the flow and taking the lead from baby.
Some people are being pushy about visiting us too, we've been firm so far with regards to a visitor ban but people have ways of making you feel guilty.
I feel things are going really well, baby seems happy & the fact he has put on 5oz in 5 days shows he is eating well. We will just continue taking each day as it comes & enjoy our new family